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Unwritten official things about hari raya aidilfitri

1. Hari Raya is never, never, never ever a one-day affair

Idk what anyone who is not Malay means by "visiting" but

Hah no, good sir, when we say we go visiting, we really do go visiting.

There are the grandparents (both paternal&maternal), the aunts and uncles, the parents' aunts and uncles (both paternal&maternal), their cousins, great-relatives, friends, friends of friends yeah ok I should stop here.

But you get the point.

Basically hari raya takes at least two weeks.

(Our record is 5 houses in a day whoopee.)

And no one is really free during 'free' days of those weeks.

2. You tell families apart by the colour of their outfits.

I know this.

You know this.

Everyone knows this.

You see people on the streets and

oh this family is going purple this year

or

the red family

or

oh my god we're wearing the same colour

(this is where things may get a little or a lot awkward)

it's true

fact

#confirmed

it's something vital to our hari rayas

it's frickin family identity, man

this year we're wearing green

and to show you just how serious Colour of the Years are

we've already decided on a colour for Hari Raya Aidilfitri 2014

(it's ivory)

Really though our hari raya outfits are paramount.

(May be exaggerating; we're not this superficial I swear)

"Outfits" not "costumes" because..!

They're really important significant valuable things in a Malay home..!

They're not clothes you can buy merely at a roadside for $15, no, they're expensive (really) and they're special outfits set aside for grand occasions and they're really important!!!

They're so valuable in so many ways!!

There's the kain songket and kain batik and kebayas and baju kurungs and jubahs like you need to appreciate the outfits on so many levels.

You need to know how to wear them!!
We take these outfits reaallly seriously!!
(How do I accessorise these with the kerongsang or the gold bracelet idk!!)

Which is why appropriation of all these outfits esp for rhd and the likes irk me so, so bad.

Do you really know what you're wearing do you do you now bc lbr u don't k gurl bye.